Love Goes Beyond Romantic Relationships

Many people think of February as a month of love. What if we expanded the general meaning of it to also include other acts of kindness and love towards all people? What if we made this the month of universal love, starting with the people whom we spend time together close to half our waking hours?

Think about it, the working person spends an average of 40-50 hours a week at the workplace. During those hours, you are surrounded by your boss, coworkers, associates and staff. You may belong to different departments, doing different things, coming from different backgrounds but you share several things in common with them. You are all spending time in the same place, working towards shared goals and probably even sharing the same anxieties and stresses. You are all connected in the workplace as human beings.

Showing love and kindness in the office? Does that work?

According to a 2012 workplace survey conducted by the American Psychological Association, employees who feel valued are more likely to report better physical and mental health, as well as higher levels of engagement, satisfaction and motivation, compared to those who are not valued by their employers.

This survey debunks the myth that love and kindness have no place in the workplace. Love and kindness do not make you soft or ineffective. It is quite the opposite. Love and kindness have the potential to make you an even better leader, a collaborative team worker, and a top performing employee.

How can you do it?

A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.

-Nelson Mandela columnist and leadership expert, Peter Economy, states in his article entitled, 7 Ways to Lead With Your Heart, that “Too often business is all about doing what your head tells you to do rather than your heart. Leaders are ideally positioned to put humanity, compassion, and purpose back into the workplace, so why not use that power? By putting people first, and by tapping into employees’ unlimited wells of creativity, initiative, and productivity, the psychic and the financial rewards to your company will be truly remarkable.”

Random acts of kindness make the difference and love improves the culture and climate in the office. There is power when you connect with your coworkers beyond professional terms. When you build your professional relationship using love and kindness as its foundation, you transform people, teams and even an entire organization.

Here are some examples:

Start with the little things, a pat in the back, a courteous greeting, or an extra hand. These actions can make the difference to a colleague, who really needs it. Who knows how these small gestures may have a positive impact on that colleague who needs them?

Take a personal approach on the onboarding process. Welcome new recruits with a firm handshake, a warm smile and welcoming attitude. Check up on them after a few months to see how they are doing and adjusting. Building relationships as early as Day 1 is an investment for the future.

Publicly recognize and celebrate achievements of your team. Andre Lavoie, Entrepreneur, CEO and Co-Founder of ClearCompany said in his article, Spread the Love in the Workplace, that “employees who consistently feel valued and appreciated by their employers are far more likely to put in significant effort on the company’s behalf.”

Show genuine interest on the life of your colleagues, even on aspects outside of work. Ask about their hobbies or family events.

Stop office gossip and pettiness on its track. Indifference and in-fighting break relationships but being genuine and sincere create relationships.  

Practice and advocate a positive attitude.

Let’s celebrate Valentine’s Day in a way that would remind us to do the things that we do with love. Love brings happy chemicals to all. What if we share them everywhere we go? Small acts of love can lead to greater impact on the whole. Think about the ripple effect in your office and if you left a trail of loving acts like bread crumbs for others.  The beautiful thing about coming from a place of love is that love supports sustainable relationships and environments that lead to  positive change not only for yourself but also for other people and to the society as a whole.

Here are four things that you can do to initiate

  1. Learn to lead with love

Executives, directors and supervisors can be more effective when they are not only managers but also leaders, who provide inspiration, motivation and professional connection with their team. Use your soft skills to lead people. Balance your concern on the business pipeline with your genuine care to your people. Show your  colleagues that you care for their professional development by coaching them and guiding them every step of their way towards the top. Leadership expert, Peter Economy, tells that “Great leaders know how to blend the analytical and the emotional. That doesn’t make you a softie. Just the opposite.” He adds that “when you lead with your heart, others are sure to be touched, both inside and outside the organization.” It unleashes the full potential of people.

  1. Learn to do business with love

Executives and entrepreneurs can be more profitable when they conduct their business and serve their clientele with love. Love impacts the ROI! Genuine customer care goes beyond customer satisfaction, with love and genuine compassion, your organization  can achieve customer delight. Happy customers stay. Make the customer feel good and remind them they are special. Find ways to show them you care.  Love on your clients and they will love on you. One happy customer can be an evangelist for you. Spread love.

  1. Learn to mentor others with love

There will always be people who will need your advice and support. Help them ease their worries by being there for them. Sharing your time and energy to people who need your wisdom can lead to greater effects on other people and on the society as a whole. One piece of advice that you give to people can have a significant influence on them. Make this change by mentoring others who need your guidance.

  1. Learn to love yourself

If you are hitting a brick wall in your journey of life, whether in your personal or professional life such as romance, health, career or other aspects of your life, committing acts of love towards yourself can be the solution. Give yourself a treat or invest in your personal development. The only way to success is the continuous improvement of ourselves, so take a step towards turning yourself in a newly improved you.

Imagine a world with genuine relationships built through love.

If love can ripple to greater change.  

Your acts of love towards a coworker, a business partner, a client, or yourself will make all the difference. Every act done for others will cascade to other people in their network. You will be surprised how the love you extended to others will echo back to you.

What does love have to do with it?

In the workplace:

Basketball coaching legend John Wooden and his team has a winning percentage of 81%. He was asked how he did it:

“I let my players know that I care for them more than just as athletes. When they are under my supervision, it’s up to me to make sure that they understand that I care for them.”

Only when he has earned the trust of his team, through love, was John able to lead his team to then unprecedented 10 NCAA titles.

Love, in the workplace, in the business, in professional relationships or in networks is neither soft nor mushy. It is an absolute requirement.

Make this Valentine’s month more special for you and your loved ones. Find out how!

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Dr. Cherry Collier Ph.D. in Social/Organizational Psychology from UGA. Master Certified Coach (MCC) through the ICF and a Master Certified Coach and Trainer of NLP (MCNLP), Certified Mediator and Denison Culture Certified Consultant. Author of Move Out of Your Own Way and a 100+ book series The Science and Art, a collection of best selling books on the science of human behavior and success being used as reference for leaders, executives, managers and coaches from a variety of industries and professions. Professor of Coaching for the last 6 years at a University. Professor of Entrepreneurship in the Business School of a University. Over 5,000 hours helping with clients and coaches get massive results. Over 15 years serving as a mentor coach. Published scholar and has mentored Ph.D. and MBA learners. Founding Member of Coachville. Certified in various assessments Disc, MBTI and more