Your Ego Will Only Pull You Down

You should always remember “to respect people’s differences is to know and promote true peace.” Each person is unique, and people don’t care how much you know, unless they know how much you care about them.

Keep in mind that peace is more important than being right. Every person has the right to think and feel differently about a situation, and we should respect his or her views.

Once you develop value and respect for the other person’s model of the world, you can recognize that your ego (the part that separates you from the universe) always wants to be right. Instead of allowing your ego to control you, you will come to respect, even if not agree with, models that frame the world differently.

As you look at life, you view it through your lenses. It’s impossible for you, if you’re a man reading this in the United States, to have the same experience as, say, a woman who might read this in Japan. People see things differently. You see life based on your experiences. You awoke this morning in your body. In that body today, you have spent every minute of the day. No one else out there knows what you went through today. No one else understands exactly how you came to frame your model of the world. I can only accept your model.

You must remember that it’s not always about you. Sometimes, you need to help others through compassion, and you don’t have to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes to understand and respect the frame and view of the world in the eyes of a different person.

Therefore, the basic outlook is not to be always right about every situation or circumstances, but to choose peace with it and to be educated from inside. Educated people choose wisely and courageously under any circumstances. If they can choose between wisdom and foolishness, between good and bad, between virtuousness and vulgarities, despite the academic degrees they have, they are educated.

Thus, to let go of your ego and to be the better person, simply follow this:

The next time you find yourself disagreeing with another’s viewpoint, take the time to listen closely to what he or she is saying. Then, repeat the main concept to the person in your words to make sure you understand what is said. Finally, place yourself in that person’s context; view the concept in question from the perspective of his or her unique position and experiences.


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Cherry A. Collier, Ph.D., MCC, CNLPMC, RCC, CPCC
Chief Collaboration Officer, Master Certified Executive Coach & Inclusion Strategist

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Dr. Cherry

Cherry A. Collier, Ph.D. is an Organizational Psychologist, Strategist, Executive Coach, and Diversity, Inclusion, & Belonging Consultant for Personality Matters, Inc. Her science-based approach and brain-based techniques, propel people, teams, and organizations to build bridges and work from the inside out to achieve their goals. Dr. Cherry specializes in emotional intelligence, neuroscience, leadership development, and DEI Diversity, Equity and Inclusion. She received her Doctorate and Master of Science in Applied Social/Organizational Psychology from the University of Georgia and Graduated Magna Cum Laude from Spelman College. She is the author of more than twenty-five Human Behavior related books for leaders, executives, and coaches. Dr. Cherry is often called the DEI Whisperer because she has a unique ability to fiercely “hold the space” and be totally present which creates a psychologically safe environment that allows others all the space they need to fully express themselves. She listens to others with head, heart and hands approach so that they are heard, seen and understood.